Circle of Light


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My treasured friend Melanie and I were in the midst of a conversation last evening, when she said, I’d love it if you would write a piece about the Circle of Light. Let’s begin with Melanie’s words in a tweet this morning:

Good friends can come together to form a #CircleOfLight. Picture a circle of people holding hands & connected together to give strength & support to someone in the centre who is feeling low. The person in the middle changes depending on who needs the most light! #StarfishClub

Today’s post is dedicated to Melanie, for the inspiration, and as a thank you for being such a superb friend. I am proud of you and honoured to know you, I’ve got your back.

We have been discussing in recent days how, naturally, when a member of our circle of friends is in need of help, support, an ear, a shoulder, a healing touch, or love, that we all gather around that person, and the light grows in strength to support that member of the circle whose light has dimmed temporarily. It demonstrates that connection that we have with each other. We gather and stay with the part of our circle until their light is shining brightly again, only then do we all continue on our pathways. It is not something you can read in a book, learn in a classroom, or be taught how to do, it comes to you naturally.

As Melanie and I delved further into this topic last night, I was reminded so much of something I had first encountered around 30 years ago, “The Goose Story”. I don’t have occasion to bring it up all that often, but, in this case, it seemed to be so perfect for the conversation we were engaged in. I have included it with today’s post so you can pick the relevant points from it as well.

Let’s have a look at a few examples which may illustrate this clearly for you, dear reader.

One group, there are four of us, I call us the Fierce Female Foursome. One of our group recently experienced the sudden death of an extended family member, and she was absolutely devastated. Nobody needed to say a word, we were her circle of light, we joined together and supported, listened, cried with, spent time with, and did everything we could for a week until her light was shining bright again. In fact, bright enough to take a huge step into the unknown and take a chance at something entirely new for her (I will tell you that story in another post). And while we were her circle of light, we also supported each other to maintain the circle. My own sister, Natalie, sent me a message, a reminder that she had my back and was my support while I was supporting the circle. Once all lights were equally bright, we went back to our usual lives and routines, but aware, that when needed, that circle will instantly form around who needs the light.

Another group, we are truly soul sisters. Take three women, all who battle PTSD daily, and all of us are high level Empaths. There are days that we don’t need electronic communications, we just feel it instantly when one of our group is off. Two of us had known for a while that our third member had been struggling, and was really up against it in recent weeks. Now, if you were to ask her, she would paste on her mask, give you a toothy grin, and tell you, everything is great. We knew differently. We had been discussing how best to support her, and it finally hit a point when we were both hit with a wave of overwhelming sadness coming from our third. We created a story to make sure she would be home the next day, and cleared everything off of our schedules, got in the car and drove up there. She only knew a package of self-care items was coming and she needed to be there to receive the package.

We were the package, the delivery company, and more. In that first moment when she saw us, let out this teeny tiny squeal and launched herself at us and wrapped us both up in a hug; she knew we were her circle of light. There was love, hugs, conversations, coffee, lunch, more conversations, a few tears, more hugs, dinner, coffee, conversation and laughter, and an overflowing amount of love that was present throughout that day and beyond. By the time we had left to drive home, we both agreed, her light was shining brightly again, but we are keeping our circle around her, we just have a feeling that we have more love and support to give, we are not done yet, and we are both honoured to be able to provide the support. This is not a temporary thing, not a fleeting moment, it is a lifetime commitment to be there for each other. And how do we know as much as we do? Because we all do the exact same things, the same coping strategies, etc. We either do it, or have done it, and with two of us, we don’t hesitate to call each other on it when we see we are falling back into old habits again, once we have our third soul sister shining brightly and steadily, then we will re-form our circle, ready to step in and support again as soon as one of our group needs us.

Over the past week or two, three friends, all teachers, have experienced a loss. One was a sudden death due to unknown medical complications, the other two were students claimed suddenly by suicide. For all three, we combined circles to support them with a circle of light. Whether just for a day, or for a week, we merged our circles into one large circle to support all three until their lights could once again shine brightly.

It’s not always the same person who is surrounded by the circle of light from their friends either. As people encounter moments of struggle, the circle re-forms around that person until their light can shine brightly again. It is a constantly shifting and changing form, but the light remains steady.

Who in your life can you be part of the circle of light for? Have you noticed times when without asking, your friends surround you and support you and lift you up when you fall. You may not even be conscious of it, but when you get to the other side of a struggle, you notice, you were not alone.

That circle of light, that support of the other people in your circles of friends, the world definitely needs more of that, every moment of every day. It is a major message in our mental health advocacy work, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

And, if we have the sense of a goose, we will stand by each other like that, always and forever. Remember the three most important words spoken (after “I love you”) are always “I’ve got you.”

Be good to each other, stay safe, and let your light shine, kittens!!

Love, sunbeams, and kitten dreams.

Christine (CityMom) 🙏🏼💙💙

The Goose Story

Next fall, when you see geese heading south for the winter, flying along in a V formation, you might consider what science has discovered as to why they fly that way: as each bird flaps its wings, it creates an uplift for the bird immediately following. By flying in V formation, the whole flock adds at least 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own.

People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going more quickly and easily because they are traveling on the thrust of one another.

When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird in front.

If we have as much sense as a goose; we will say in formation with those who are headed the same way we are.

When the head goose gets tired, it rotates back in the wing and another goose flies point.

It is sensible to take turns doing demanding jobs with people or with geese flying south.

Geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.

What do we say when we honk from behind?

Finally, and this is important, when a goose gets sick or is wounded by gunshots and falls out of formation, two other geese fall our with that goose and follow it down to lend help and protection. They stay with the fallen goose until it is able to fly, or until it dies. Only then do they launch out on their own, or with another formation to catch up with their group.

If we have the sense of a goose, we will stand by each other like that.

— based on the work of Milton Olsen


The Dinner and The Gift


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Hey folks, there are two of us who co-authored this piece, Matt from A Medic’s Mind, and myself. We will be publishing this on both of our blogs, and we plan to do this more often in the future as well. Sit back and enjoy!


A friend of mine reached out to me a while back to tell me about something that had happened to her. The conversation took place over text. It is important that you know that, because often times emotion does not permeate well via typed lettering to a screen. This was not one of those times! Quite the opposite, in fact. Not only was the emotion of the chosen lexicon palpable, it was highly justified.

I heard my phone chime to life with news of an incoming message. I finished taking a large swig of tea while simultaneously reaching for the beckoning phone. And I’m glad I did…

It was a message from a dear friend, Christine. Christine is one of those individuals that possesses a deeply burning passion to better the world and those within it. Always a pleasure hearing from Christine. I swiped along the surface of my phone so as to unlock its secrets and reveal the hidden messages. I began reading and was instantly hooked on what I was taking in…

Christine informed me that she had recently attended a dinner with some good friends and police officers. Truth be told, some of her dearest friends are those whom hold the line… Christine sent two pictures to our message thread along with some more prose. The image she sent was powerful in and of itself, but the story behind it is one that melts even the most insulated of hearts – it was a picture of a pillow; not just any pillow, but a hand-crafted pillow in which the covering was made from a uniform shirt belonging to a police officer. And not just any police officer; a female officer with over twenty-five years of service to her community and country. She is also the fifth woman in the history of her service to have risen to the rank which she now proudly holds!

This hero’s name is, Cathy. She was the officer sitting beside Christine. Now, again, I was not there, so this is all imagery conjured from the power of Christine’s written word. Cathy had made this pillow out of an old uniform shirt that she had worn on many an occasion during her time in her previous rank.

I said before that this was no ordinary pillow, and it’s not – because it was a gift. A gift from Cathy to Christine. Cathy took the time to have a uniform shirt of which she wore during a great number of trying times for certain, made into a pillow and ultimately passed on to a worthy friend.

I was completely blown away by the symbolism of this selfless gesture. I mean, on the surface and perhaps to the average reader it comes across as a ‘nice gesture’ sure, but to those whom have worn a uniform, like myself, it is so much more than that… A kind gesture? Yes. But one of deeply-seated meaning. As a first responder we wear the uniform of our trade. On our shoulders are embroidered crests that hang with the weight of a community. From the moment you put it on and square it away, you become humbled in the knowledge that you are standing for something much greater than self. Upon learning that, the uniform becomes less like thread and fabric and more akin to that of a second skin. It becomes part of you. The duality of what it stands for and the person wearing it. That uniform follows you everywhere. It is there when you make a difference in someone’s life. It is there when you hold the hand of someone on their worst day. It observes, the same as the wearer when we see life born, leave or be saved. It is witness to the things that we lock our doors for. It holds the tears of the newly bereaved. A stain from that time we didn’t get to finish our lunch – there was a call to get to. It is a uniform that is there at weddings, funerals, parades and celebrations. And sometimes, that uniform can even follow its wearer to the afterlife. Hugging the body until it gets there.

This gift was not just a kind gesture; it was someone choosing to give a piece of themselves to someone they felt was ennobled enough to receive it.

What a gesture, indeed…

The uniform is not just a uniform. And that pillow is not just a pillow. It is a symbol of love, courage, honor and devotion. It is a symbol of everything good in this world and those willing to keep it that way. And you know what? Christine, will no doubt keep that safe.


When I had returned home that evening, my mind was running at top speed, and the question was who can I relate the events of the evening to who will just “get it”? Ah, yes, my friend Matt!! If anybody will understand what a significant evening this was, he will most certainly understand it, having served in the military and as a paramedic on the front lines with all other first responders.

Four of us met for dinner that evening. Initially we had planned simply to meet up for coffee and conversation, but, Cathy was the one who had the idea, let’s go for dinner, and we can sit and relax and chat easily. Granted, the weather leading up to this evening had been horrid, and the major ice storm on the weekend before had left things challenging until the rains hit and the temps rose on Monday.

One of the things I do enjoy is bringing together people and watching the interactions happen. I just knew that it would be a magical evening once the conversation began. It was such a great group too, our favourite elementary school teacher, Melanie, a sergeant from transit enforcement, Jessica, and a senior level officer from a police service, Cathy. (This comical curmudgeon rounded out the foursome.) All of us had had various contacts with each other over the past year, and we supported each other online, but had never met in person. This would be an exciting night! And to top it off, we were a week past Melanie’s birthday, so we had a belated birthday celebration planned as well.

In the months leading up to our dinner get-together, we had been having longer conversations, sharing our own personal stories with each other, this way, we had a common knowledge base to work from at dinner so we could leap directly into conversation that evening. That worked out better than I had hoped for, as I sat and watched connections made, offers of working together come to fruition, and truly amazing conversations and so much of our lives shared at that table. Again, what I had hoped would happen, plus even more.

And so much in common amongst us. Cathy and I had been sharing stories with each other, and in the process discovered mutual friends that we had, so even more things to plan for later in the year when our favourite friend/sister is off beating her time again in another IronMan Triathlon. The nifty thing was, as we talked, we dug down a little further into our histories and shared more of our stories, and I just knew that Cathy would become as our mutual friend had, not only a friend, but a sister. Family.

We had been discussing some little things we could do to make Melanie’s birthday that much more memorable with some little things from our group as well, and we took care of that as well as the usual trading of pins and items that happens whenever a group of us get together. I figured we were finished with that part of the evening, we had already placed dinner orders all around the table, so it was a matter of digging into the conversation in the meantime. Not quite yet. One more thing to take care of.

Cathy pulled up this big bag and began to tell us about what she had done. In her years of service, and having been a trailblazer for all of that, she had kept the occasional memento of what she had to do to get to that next step. You see, people forget, women in law enforcement is still a relatively new thing, there were some, but not in large numbers, throughout the 20th century, and those who entered policing as a career have been and continue to be trailblazers in that field of work. One thing she had was an old uniform shirt. It had seen much time on duty, and for a number of years too, before finally, after having to be twice as good as anyone else to prove women can do it, she had been promoted. This had a lot of significance and meaning for her, as you can imagine. These things do for anyone who has ever worn a uniform of any kind, particularly first responders.

So, this old uniform shirt, with patches and rank insignia, had been made into a pillow. A gift. To me. Because we have both had our struggles, and she wanted me to have this from her as her recognition of those battles fought and survived/won. Melanie would tell me a few weeks later that I was speechless and looked shocked by it all. I was!

As Matt has told you, that is not just a shirt. It is more than cloth, it is many years of service, of hard work, of struggle, of leading the way. If it could talk, could you imagine the stories it would tell of shifts that left a mark, shifts that left a smile, and more. You might say it cemented the bond of not only friendship, but sisterhood between us. I was then, and still am, beyond honoured to receive something this significant. There is a lifetime in that gift. And what an amazing life the woman who wore it has led to date.

Allow me a moment to give you a bit of history. When you look back through my family tree, you would find that every generation has had family members in uniform. Whether in branches of the military or in first responder careers, in the U.K. and here in Canada. I had expected to keep that tradition going. My top three career choices coming out of high school had included policing. Small world then, that the summer between grades 12 and 13, I would land a summer job through the Ontario Experience Program, the provincial government’s summer jobs for students from high school through university. I had applied through as many ministries as I could, and was hired to spend my summer at Toronto’s 22 Division, working on a crime prevention program.

Now, to dig down a little further. I had come out as trans when I was 16, but only at home, not publicly. And the summer after, when I worked at 22 Division, was 4 months after the infamous bathhouse raids. I thoroughly enjoyed the people I was with, the two Constables we spent all our time with were a joy to work with, and Friday lunchtimes with stories from the road was all of our favourite time of the week. But, I also heard the conversations inside the station, and outside as well. And the more I listened, the more I knew, this was not going to happen, not for me. And women were almost invisible then too, so it was a double hit. This job ain’t for you, you definitely don’t belong here. I ended up in infotech and telecom instead when I graduated school and headed into the workforce.

People have asked why I do the work I have, particularly partnering up with Danielle, the TPS LGBTQ2S Liaison Officer for the past 6 years. Because, there needs to be those people who can sit at the table and have the tough conversations while speaking truth to power, as Deputy Chief McLean regularly reminds me. Because, not only do we work together, but Danielle and I are best friends outside of the work too, and when we get together for laughs, we don’t talk shop. Because I was raised in the environment I was, I can relate to both veterans and first responders at the human level. I don’t speak to the uniform, I relate to the human wearing it. And there are people inside the headquarters building who can tell you that I don’t pussyfoot around, and I have no qualms about blistering the ears of those at the table when something has occurred that only has one suitable response – DAFUQ?! I am definitely no fangirl, but I will sit and have that conversation and get to know the people involved and look at all sides of a situation. And yes, some of my closest and most treasured friends wear a uniform at work. Not a big deal, I enjoy the people (and the humour!).

I have long had an interest in seeing women in uniform have full equity and equality and opportunities for advancement. It is why I work with some of the organizations that I do, because dammit, it’s the 21st century, people are equal, but the memo hasn’t gotten around yet. And I will say this: the people I have met and worked with, the friends I have made, the people I consider family, all welcomed me with open arms. Never had that experience anywhere else, let me tell you.

And that is why Cathy’s gift was so significant for me. We have shared many things from our lives with each other, but this, took the friendship to another level, we most definitely will always be friends and sisters. I only hope that one day I can share something of equal significance and importance with her too. I shared the story of this gift with a few friends, those who, like Matt, I knew would get it right away. Some had tears, some had smiles, but everybody got what a significant thing this is. It’s not just a shirt, and not only a pillow, it is a connection between two warriors who are still leading the battle to leave the world a better place than we found it.

And I adore you beyond words, Cathy… Sister… it is truly an honour to be your friend.

Love, sunbeams, and kitten dreams.

Christine 🙏🏼💙💙

It Only Took Four Words


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The morning of 8 May, I did something totally out of character. I actually slept in!

If you know me, you know I battle insomnia constantly, but the night before, I had crashed hard around 9 pm, and did not move a muscle until after 8 am the next morning. 11 straight hours, I think I was overdue to get caught up on sleep. And typically, whether dealing with insomnia and that constant tired feeling, I usually am awake between 5 and 6 am without fail. Don’t even need an alarm clock. 30 years of getting up early to get ready to head out the door to work, it becomes a habit, even when the time changes twice a year, I still manage to wake up in that early morning hour.

My friend, a teacher east of the city, had not seen me up and about in our usual online spots in the morning, and had left a note to check in to see all was well. Yes… I actually felt rather like “spring in my step” mode that morning (see what a proper night’s sleep can do?). We proceeded with our usual morning banter and conversation and a laugh here and there. She is a truly inspiring poet, I love to read her work, and am always encouraging her to write more. What she brings to the classroom is amazing every single day. I have teachers whom I recall fondly even after decades have passed, and I just know that she will be that teacher that her students will remember with a smile years from now.

In response to something I had said that morning, she replied:

Aww, thanks. And one more thing. I believe in you.

Wow! I literally stopped right there and re-read what she had written. I ended up with this huge ear-to-ear grin, and a few happy tears too. I wondered to myself, what could we cause this week, if every time we had a conversation with someone, particularly with all of us empaths, if it is someone we pick up is having a hard day, and we told them four words and sat back and watched what happened.

Later that morning, I was chatting with my sister, Nat, and said those four words to her and she had a similar reaction to mine. I then told her what led up to it, and we said, hey, let’s both of us take this on… with people we meet today (we later extended it to the full week), let’s say those four words and see if we can spread some love around! So, as both of us always do, we ran with it for the rest of that day and were both bursting with news when we spoke at bedtime that night.

How was it for you? AMAZING!!! How was it for you? OMG, so emotional!! Let’s keep doing it! YES!!

Now kittens, keep in mind, this is not something like those little throwaway phrases that we all hear daily “have a nice day” and so on. No. This is different. This is part of a conversation. There is a lead up to the point that you can look somebody in the eye, or send them a message that says, “I believe in you.” But, when you do, wait, say nothing, just watch what happens.

Now, there have been a few, who when I have reached that point in the conversation, and I either send that graphic or say those four words, and they look down, and tears begin streaming down. Why are you crying sweetie? Because, I have been having the worst day ever, nothing has gone right, everybody has been on my ass, and you’re the first person who has said anything nice or positive to me all day.

My gawd, that would be a soul-crushing day, would it not?

Or those who have broken into a huge grin, and a few happy tears snuck past the defences, and they literally have lit up entirely. You either sense it via message, or you see it in person. And they come back with something about you, and they repeat back to you those four words, “I believe in you.”

This is a poem (reprinted with her permission) that my friend Melanie, the teacher who launched this quiet ripple, wrote and published recently. As I related the results to her the next morning after she started with the initial four words, I mentioned this poem she had written. I told her, not only can you point out examples of what your students do when they set off a quiet ripple, but you can tell your own story to your students about what you started with a quiet ripple yesterday morning, and it only took four words.

What could you do this month kittens, that could create a quiet ripple, that can bring something amazing to another person’s day? Give it a try, trust this City Mom, it is really a lot of fun, and you will get back everything you put out. Saying four words, reminded me of the acknowledgement exercise we used to do in a course in the 90s. You would pair up, and to each other acknowledge that person fully; for who they have been in the past, for who they are now in the present, and for who they will be in the future, and in that moment creating a large possibility for them to step into. We knew when we had acknowledged our partner properly, either smiles, tears, or hugs happened.

And a note for my sisters (Nat, Katt), and all my fellow mental health warriors, I know you can handle anything that comes your way today because:

Remember to LOVE each other INTENSELY.

Christine 💙💙


I received this note from a treasured friend after this post was published. I wanted to add it here as additional proof that four simple words can cause great change to happen in somebody’s life:

I said “I believe in you” to someone after you had told me that last week. I have a friend who is dealing with a ton of stuff in his life from every direction right now. I told him that I believe in him on Friday. Today, all that stuff is way better and he’s in a totally different place. It really works!

Triggered, dammit


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Stepping back a bit in time, to Thursday, 3 May.

Let’s begin with a definition of what a trigger is. The graphic above is a good explanation. I also cover triggers and what is and is not a trigger in my lectures and talks. It lays the groundwork for what we will be covering in the time that follows (anything from a 15 minute talk to an 8 hour training seminar).

Again, this is the slide from my lectures:

And I refer back to this because the term has been buried under a lot of nonsense from its overuse. It’s like the valley girl style language when you hear “Oh, that’s so gay,” or one person I know who regularly says, “That’s so OCD!”, and they get the same eye roll from me when they whine “but, I’m so triggered!!” when something in poor taste is seen or heard from mainstream media. D’ya know how often I want to look over my glasses and say “grow up!”

So, what happened?

That total frustration with myself for being triggered, dammit.

There has been a troll operating on social media for some time now, in the guise of a mental health advocate and fighter (all of these tales he tells are 100% fiction). I’ve had my suspicions, and, as I will typically do, began gathering evidence (it’s not a fast process sometimes) to prove or disprove what I had been told. Said individual had been suspended on various platforms multiple times for his attacks, usually focused on women on that platform. There is no need to go into great detail beyond saying it is some of the most vile, ugly, and misogynistic hate that you will encounter online.

I have been keeping an eye on things, and let him do his thing while I watched, and on the 3rd, a friend alerted me to him up to his usual routine, only against someone we all knew. Yes, we all came to her defense, and like your typical snake, he just laid back and slithered around and spat out his venom at unprovoked intervals. You see, on what I post, any time he posted a comment, I just deleted it instantly before it triggered someone who might see it… still didn’t have enough to act yet. This day though, he was playing all his cards of ugliness.

Like most online trolls these days, particularly one who takes as long as this one did to start an all out attack, they do their research on their targets. That’s why this one was so vile, because he would hit the raw spots.

I got to be the target this time as well. Some years back, I was attacked from behind on the street (it was a violent sexual assault). My mind did what it does when stressed beyond the limits and depersonalization occurs (you step outside yourself and observe what’s happening like it is not actually happening to you). The issue with it, nothing is being stored in an area that can be easily recalled at will, and I’m left with only little snippets here and there of the total occurrence. All I had for hard evidence afterward was being bruised from shoulder to hip all down one side where I hit the sidewalk when pulled down from behind.

Following that attack, I was interviewed for a column by a friend who is a reporter, and the one thing I could recall was something that was said during the attack, she asked about it, and I told her what I remembered. It was printed in the article. For some troll digging up what they will attack their victims with, there’s that piece right there if you know where to look for it. Learned my lesson, I never talk about myself in any media interviews if possible.

So, once the troll had finished launching various bits of venom at other people, I was next, and he spat out that one line.

Triggered? Instantly, right back on that sidewalk, hearing those words, in the midst of that attack. Mentally I’m yelling at myself “Not now dammit!!” and trying to control the shaking that was happening. There’s nothing like fighting against your own mind to keep control so you can complete what you were in the middle of. That’s what being triggered is like, it sets of a reaction physically and mentally, it’s like a cascade of things that occur one right after the other. By the time the situation had been handled, I’m not perspiring, I’m frigging sweating, shaking, all the same things as a panic attack, mind is racing, heart is racing, breathing is irregular. When triggered, you relive the event, both mentally and physically.

This all happened in a time much shorter than it has taken you to read this.

Yes, I bounce back quicker than I did when first diagnosed with PTSD in 2012. But, it still pisses me off to the nth degree, because I start pulling my list of “shoulds”. I should be stronger than this, I shouldn’t let this shit trigger me, I should be used to this by now, I should not have given that interview years ago, I should be managing this better, I should not let anyone see this happening, and more. The list is long.

And another frustrating part of it, it’s not like I have not heard that line before, I’ve heard it hundreds of times, but, this time, given what else was happening at the same time, it set me off. It’s like a previous post, I can go out for an event, and have no issues, various buttons might be pushed, but not in the right order or combination to cause an issue. This time, the right buttons, in the right order, and … sigh.

Don’t worry, I still got my shots in with that troll, I don’t do all that research for nothing. One more waste of DNA dealt with. And somebody will say, why not report them to the social media platform. Because, from the day of the internet being opened publicly until now, complaining about abuse online is like yelling into a sewer, it’s a waste of fucking time because nobody is listening. Perhaps one day, the social media platforms will be legally mandated to start cracking down on this. One only has to look at the explosion in the teenage suicide rates to see what’s going on in the connected realm. And, I know, one day Karma will pay a visit, and she’s a severe bitch (leather and stilettos, right?), doesn’t say a word, just hands out what you deserve in no uncertain terms.

The whole thing, 10-15 minutes total. Still frustrated with myself about it. I want that to be one of those things that you take a big swallow of your fizzy water, let out a decent burp, say “what-ever!” and carry on with the day. That’s when I’ll be satisfied. Until then, there’s work to do.

Remember kittens, there is nothing wrong here, so talk about these things. There are a multitude of us out here willing to listen, and to help. We don’t deal in stigma, we work from understanding and love.

Love, sunbeams, and kitten dreams.

Christine ❤️❤️

My Home, Our People, We Are #TorontoStrong


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Okay kittens, some words from me to wrap up the day.

It’s been a day. Think that about covers all aspects of it.

Usual occurrences after something like this happens… media will speculate wildly on various things. The online world will make it 100 times worse once the trolls and other assorted loons start their nonsense. That’s why it’s always wisest to wait for the FACTS. That Breaking News Consumer’s Handbook graphic… every point on that was hit in the coverage today.

And of course, tonight, the endless debating over every little oddball thing about the day’s events. Again, I prefer to wait for the FACTS rather than a lot of speculation about motives and other things.

You see, what’s missing while people debate these things endlessly — 10 fatalities, 15 injured. That number will likely change if some of the most critically injured decline suddenly. They are forgotten in the rush to offer opinions on every little thing online from all the $3 experts.

I recall the wisdom of Mr. Rogers: in these situations, look for the people who are helping. The first responders, people on the street, everyday folks just out getting some air on an 18 degree sunny afternoon, such a change from a week ago, nobody hesitated for an instant. Proud of them, each and every one, because to a person, they ran towards the dead and injured and helped in any and every way possible. Extra love to our first responders tonight, We’ve Got Your Back. Please reach out and talk about what you saw and experienced today, and please, stay safe.

If you are a 60s hippie kid like me, you’ll remember the sign on and sign off of City tv every day of the week with People City. Lots of great retro video scenes, everybody doing their thing. Lot of good people in that video. Toronto the good. 40 years on, and a lot of us are still around, and a younger generation has taken the place of those who aren’t. Same good people kittens, same folks doing their thing, making our city great.

Do not let one criminal act colour the rest of your week. Hug your loved ones a little longer and a little tighter. Say whatever three words bring comfort; I Love You; I’ve Got You; You’re Safe Now; you’ll know the right three, trust me.

And we will do what we always do in Toronto, we will carry on and life will continue. Take my advice, avoid the media… don’t obsess over every little thing that gets a BREAKING NEWS hashtag or graphic slapped on it. Avoid the instant experts who declare unsubstantiated bullshit to be true. You’ll remember the media had the same obsession about another case and it’s been shoved aside while they obsess over this now.

But the people of People City; that’s where the miraculous and the magical happened today and will again tomorrow and the next day, and so on. The stories of people looking out for each other on transit, on the sidewalks, I noticed this afternoon and evening that there has not been the impatient honking and yelling from drivers waiting to get to the highway that I have heard every day for the past few weeks.

Friends who reached out to friends via text, voicemail, email, phone call… hey, you safe? You need a shoulder/ear? “Are you okay?” was asked in a hundred different ways. I know they have a list of resources at hand, because people will be affected by today’s events, and some will struggle. There’s no shame in reaching out, so do just that, and we will guide people to the help they require.

The scenery may have changed over the years, but the people of Toronto, People City, they are the constant, and they are what makes our city so great. We truly are #TorontoStrong and we will always remain the #PeopleCity

Love and hugs sent to you all, enjoy the 70s nostalgia: Toronto People City

Christine/City Mom 🙏🏼💙💙